Story 1: “I ruined my family ritual, now what?”

Story #1: My family members and I have always had a ritual of sharing a smoke when we first get together. Even though they are proud of me for quitting smoking, I know that somehow, they think I’m judging or rejecting them when I don’t join in the activity. What can I do to stay quit and not hurt their feelings?



  • Suggest a new family tradition that doesn’t involve tobacco, like a game of football or cards.
  • Ask them to join you when you quit smoking and make it a family effort.
  • Remind them of your job in the military and how smoking can affect your mission readiness.